I came to think that in order for me to care for others I have to look after myself.
This comes across as selfish… I tell my daughter to be considerate to others nevertheless to put herself first… This is like what came first the Chicken or the Egg and is bound to confuse even the most pragmatic souls.
You are frown upon if you are narcissistic , and if you humble you are a victim not able to stand up for your self.
There is loads and loads of self help articles of how to be a balance person about loving yourself but not too much that seems vain and egocentric.
Do we really need to measure ourselves that we good because we care and how much we show we do. Does that give us a right to imagine that we are better and therefore more of aworthy human.